tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post8739252217031903494..comments2024-01-17T12:41:46.125+00:00Comments on A PolyGlot: Dear SantaUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-76285910780769133042011-04-07T09:37:53.258+01:002011-04-07T09:37:53.258+01:00You are MOST welcome Lia Joy!!!
'Create a par...You are MOST welcome Lia Joy!!!<br /><br />'Create a partnership' is a very nice phrase as well!!<br /><br />N<br />xNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-75677013268576346822011-04-06T21:43:58.536+01:002011-04-06T21:43:58.536+01:00Interesting update... I looked over my wording and...Interesting update... I looked over my wording and I didn't actually use that phrase at all. I said "create a partnership."<br /> Reflecting about the idea that I *could have* without realizing how it came across is still quite valuable, though. Thanks. I'll be reading through more of this blog & keeping up with updates :)Lia joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795882304547114044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-22610148038072703982011-04-05T23:22:57.964+01:002011-04-05T23:22:57.964+01:00Thanks Isa, I do try, though I know I can be hard ...Thanks Isa, I do try, though I know I can be hard on those who are quite sensitive! Mind you, like I said to our recent troll poster, if you can't handle my bluntness online than you won't be able to handle this lifestyle, Good Grief, it seriously makes you reach for emotional reserves you did not even know you had!!! <br /><br />Hi Lia, thanks for the comment, I think when we think about the way we use language, it gives us an opportunity to realise our internal thought processes also. Lots of these opinions come from hit and miss tries, what works, what didn't work, what made someone feel uncomfortable, unimportant and sidelined and why. <br /><br />We are SO used to this dyadic world and the norms of it, we can't change a lifetime of social conditioning overnight but I think it is important for those of us who do/want to live outside the norms, to analyse our conditioning for the good of our relationships present and future, as well as for future generations coming through, so they already have the knowledge available and don't have to work it out the hard way like we all have to!! ;o))<br /><br />xxNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-23940055328138756892011-04-05T22:40:11.448+01:002011-04-05T22:40:11.448+01:00Interesting... I thought, when I used phrases like...Interesting... I thought, when I used phrases like "join our family" that change in dynamic, flexibility and compromise was implied -- How could we NOT expect such things when we hope to share a relationship with a third?!? <br /> Thanks for the reminder to articulate carefully. Common sense is not so common after all. Off to dissect my choice of words, now...Lia joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795882304547114044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-9861746001529955012011-03-26T00:42:31.903+00:002011-03-26T00:42:31.903+00:00Thanks Natja, this needs to be said over and over....Thanks Natja, this needs to be said over and over. Some folks have no clue how many others are just like them, and all looking for the same thing.<br />I'm only a step or two ahead, having realized just that the hard way. <br />Thanks for being so knowledgeable, articulate and on point for all of us! <br /><br />Peace,<br />IsaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17740903548079364636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-53952071393055447952010-12-05T23:33:11.670+00:002010-12-05T23:33:11.670+00:00Thanks for telling me that my link does not work. ...Thanks for telling me that my link does not work. I changed the name of my blog so here's the new link:<br /><br />http://theblacksheepinmyfamily.blogspot.com/Racheal Jacobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05530388730113685881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-68012683989466969572010-11-30T14:35:30.638+00:002010-11-30T14:35:30.638+00:00Thank you Rachael, my daughter was discharged toda...Thank you Rachael, my daughter was discharged today.<br /><br />Your link doesn't work btw.Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-40890433883399363872010-11-30T14:26:17.732+00:002010-11-30T14:26:17.732+00:00Hi DW,
Thanks for the reply, yes, I have seen tha...Hi DW,<br /><br />Thanks for the reply, yes, I have seen that often with people also. Sometimes you feel a bit guilty telling people the truth because you know they are thinking 'it's alright for YOU to say that, you already have the relationship!' and it is true, I do. <br />So it seems pretty unfair to say that people shouldn't have such high expectations but really, what else can you say, not everyone in this world is going to meet the right one for them, my mother and my sister have never been married. I have cousins who haven't either, my partners have single adult kin as well.<br />Some people are damned lucky to have 'one' good, solid relationship in this world, how often do we find that? So asking for two, three, four etc is going to be even more difficult and complex, why can't people see that is beyond me. I think they think it will be easier because they don't see the other person (usually a woman) as equally important in the relationship as they are.<br /><br />It is pretty tragic really.Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-74378736361314884312010-11-28T16:17:01.526+00:002010-11-28T16:17:01.526+00:00Natja,
I've seen these ads as well and find t...Natja,<br /><br />I've seen these ads as well and find them rather disappointing. Leah and I were already good friends, and Jacob was her husband. We just met and it seemed to all fall together for us. We were not looking. We did not ask for a specific type. It just happened for us. It's been the same for meeting Sarah, the woman we are currently courting. <br /><br />http://mypolylifeasasecondwife.blogspot.com/<br /><br />Thank You for Your Blog,<br /><br />Racheal<br /><br />ps. I hope your daughter is feeling much better.Racheal Jacobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05530388730113685881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-32939889950382722010-11-25T16:10:25.274+00:002010-11-25T16:10:25.274+00:00Hi Natja! Long time no see. Sorry we've all be...Hi Natja! Long time no see. Sorry we've all been a bit distracted by getting dumped on with a dump truck of assy bad luck. <br /><br />I laugh when people ask me "how to find a sisterwife" or only talk to me about the sexual side of poly relationships. I stop them often and say, "you know poly is not about sex. It's about family, and it takes a lot of work." <br /><br />They tend to wave me off with a smile and laugh and keep on searching for that fantasy that doesn't really exists. <br /><br />Each couple will have their own relationship, and each person will have their own personalities and dreams. It is never good to have such lofty expectations because you will only get disappointed. <br /><br />Love to you and yours.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01091967579607178918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-52547094027789329202010-11-16T11:46:10.932+00:002010-11-16T11:46:10.932+00:00Thanks for the reply Crys and for telling your sto...Thanks for the reply Crys and for telling your story.<br />I checked out your blog also, many thanks for the link.<br /><br />Natja<br />xNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-35200029519987733152010-11-15T07:24:59.074+00:002010-11-15T07:24:59.074+00:00I know I'm incredibly lucky, but...
I met my ...I know I'm incredibly lucky, but...<br /><br />I met my wife (we're both female, btw) in high school, we became friends, then close friends, then lovers. Still together, it's been a decade or so. <br /><br />Wifey and I met our male partner, Matt, when he attended the same grad program as Wifey. We all became friends, spent time individually within each pairing (still as "just friends") as well as together, and then one evening we ended up in a conversation about how much time we were all spending together, and what that meant, and what we might want it to mean...<br /><br />And now we've all been together for over a year -- shared living space, shared finances, shared cats. :) <br /><br />I guess I tend to feel like that's the best way to do it *if possible* -- meeting someone and then "more" develops over time, rather than seeking out a particular "type" of person or relationship.<br /><br />-Crys (crysleh.tumblr.com)cryslehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14971831111758737009noreply@blogger.com