tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post2706162842193428514..comments2024-01-17T12:41:46.125+00:00Comments on A PolyGlot: Polyamourous Ideology – How Monogamy enslaved the WestUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-27387300513191001272012-12-14T11:01:14.767+00:002012-12-14T11:01:14.767+00:00Thank you Um Dayo, I have actually written a littl...Thank you Um Dayo, I have actually written a little about Islamic Polygyny with regards to a book review by Dr. Patricia Dixon on my personal blog. I would be grateful if you read it and can tell me whether anything resonates with you? I will check out your blog thanks, I love hearing about functioning Poly relationships/families.<br /><br />http://natjasnatterings.blogspot.co.uk/2011/11/more-on-book-end-and-islam.htmlNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-3049220684530783142012-12-07T20:23:38.318+00:002012-12-07T20:23:38.318+00:00Amazing! I am floored right now, literally. You st...Amazing! I am floored right now, literally. You state in such clear, logical language a point I only flailingly whine about. I am living in polygyny, although as a Muslim, so it's a little different (better? worse? not sure...) anyway, I am a follower of this blog now for sure! check mine out: www.kaighla-americanmuslimah.blogspot.comUm Dayohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04745636563521355726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-10112270674584670482012-05-16T12:00:33.317+01:002012-05-16T12:00:33.317+01:00Hello Pokerface, thank you for your comment.
It is...Hello Pokerface, thank you for your comment.<br />It is quite simple, cheating implies lack of consent, that means a person either sees either one or more other people without their partner's knowledge or even 'with' their knowledge but without their consent. <br />i.e. "I will do what I damn well please and if you don't like it you can leave"<br /><br />In Polyamory everyone must be in agreement, that does not mean it is easy (it isn't) or that you won't feel jealous (you probably will) but as long as you know and you decide to deal with your own feelings, Polyamory can be very rewarding lifestyle.Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-64034215629459314312012-05-16T06:19:46.336+01:002012-05-16T06:19:46.336+01:00I love your blog. But my question is..... How does...I love your blog. But my question is..... How does polyamory differ from cheating?Pokerfacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04590215321611171730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-89219505111891633502011-12-19T00:13:18.820+00:002011-12-19T00:13:18.820+00:00Thank you Karin!
xThank you Karin!<br /><br />xNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-88875766130483820002011-12-18T23:20:35.126+00:002011-12-18T23:20:35.126+00:00Beautiful Love you Sharing and glad I stumbled ont...Beautiful Love you Sharing and glad I stumbled onto your blog.. <br />Keep it coming I will be sharing it with many. Thank YouKarinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08825594555766385681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-9333306846729034552011-11-16T00:47:58.639+00:002011-11-16T00:47:58.639+00:00Thank you Freja!!
Natja
xThank you Freja!!<br /><br />Natja<br />xNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-61597243681523979692011-11-15T21:59:35.172+00:002011-11-15T21:59:35.172+00:00Great post! It is so often assumed that monogamy ...Great post! It is so often assumed that monogamy is somehow natural, and therefore polyamory cannot work. If we were raised with different ideals, then I believe that poly relationships would feel just as normal to us.<br /><br />What would be ideal would be if everyone could choose the relationship style that suits them best, rather than defaulting to monogamy and assuming that other options are simply not workable.Red Perilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15726100181726859690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-46231146648013192682011-11-11T11:27:13.816+00:002011-11-11T11:27:13.816+00:00Thank you Macha!!
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xThank you Macha!!<br /><br />N<br />xNatja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-83598131308762128602011-11-11T05:16:13.245+00:002011-11-11T05:16:13.245+00:00This is excellent! I'll be bookmarking this f...This is excellent! I'll be bookmarking this for future reference when people have questions about polyamory!Carla Schmidt Hollowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947846629735463824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-25043265970027708342011-11-10T12:37:28.940+00:002011-11-10T12:37:28.940+00:00Thank you Marijannayeti, Yes, I also am quite per...Thank you Marijannayeti, Yes, I also am quite perplexed by the lack of discourse regarding non-monogamy within the black community and in some places the concept of Sisterhood is getting increasingly lost as many women compete for one 'good' man, all other (at least single) women are seen as a threat, fractionating the black community even more. <br /><br />Yes, I read 'Love times three' and I found it very useful in reminding me how much love and strength there can be in a Poly home.<br /><br />I do believe Dr. Patricia Dixon has made the case for Polygyny in the black community in her book "We Want for Our Sisters What We Want for Ourselves, Polygyny~Copartnering: A Relationship, Marriage and Family Alternative" but I have yet to see anyone advocating the case for egalitarianism or queerness. Thank you for the compliment, I really appreciate it.Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-1405562151520135052011-11-10T12:11:13.768+00:002011-11-10T12:11:13.768+00:00Thank you Jessica, this post was inspired by seein...Thank you Jessica, this post was inspired by seeing people I love struggle to cope with greater demands on them financially as the economic situation starts to really bite and realising that from a purely practical standpoint, Poly can ease many of our difficulties. Of course it creates a whole new set of problems, but I think many of these problems are caused by our expectations of relationships and what constitutes commitment, rather than Poly living in itself. If we try to unlearn the concept of 'possession' in our relationships, I think we and future generations have a greater chance of happiness within Poly families than we have now, frankly it is a struggle unlearning that behaviour of 'mine'.Natja's Natteringshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02345321471190596172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-66415819573672224072011-11-10T06:25:13.023+00:002011-11-10T06:25:13.023+00:00One Love Natja,
I love this post. I wish that you...One Love Natja,<br /><br />I love this post. I wish that you'd write a book. By the way what do you think of the new book "Love Times Three"? I really enjoyed it. I have studied Social Science for yearss since High School and through graduate school and this is one of the best critique of the private property argument that I have read to date. Many Western feminists have stayed away from critiquing the Christian doctrine on monogamy because of the internalized racism in the thinking. On the other hand, Alice Walker's theory about the Womanist showed promised because it opened up space for women of color and specifically black women to articulate their experiences with love and life in theory. I have not come across any contemporary black womanist or feminists who discuss plural marriage or polyamory. All of my black feminists professors are stuck on monogamy as the norm and the ideal and this is so stiffling in the academic community that's already cancerous and deadly. They don't live any room for love especially the bi-sexual kind. In that world one is either homosexual or heterosexual. <br />I hope that you write a book about this topic soon. You have my best regards in that endeavor. <br />Jah love.Marijannayitihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15299645616568463756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8682771620167266255.post-73084766080729301872011-11-10T01:43:12.020+00:002011-11-10T01:43:12.020+00:00Gah! I wish you didn't make so much sense. Not...Gah! I wish you didn't make so much sense. Not sure I agree with everything 100% but the results of the situation you outline are spot on. One of the major appeals of polyamory for me is the ability have a real extended family, that can support each other throughout their lives together. So someone is always able to take care of children, and there are resources and hands to help our elders, and we can have enough income to live reasonably without destroying our health and sanity in the rat race.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00786087161300990343noreply@blogger.com